“When you meet someone who feels like The One, when the chemistry is strong and the connection feels easy and the timing seems too perfect to be coincidence, you stop seeing them clearly. You don’t see a flawed human being with their own wounds and patterns and limitations. You see your soulmate. Your destiny. The person you’ve been waiting for your whole life. Which means you overlook red flags, because soulmates wouldn’t hurt you, so that thing they did must not be a big deal.”

“Intensity can exist with completely the wrong person. Compatibility can exist without immediate intensity.”

“Instead of panicking when you feel negative emotions in your relationship and immediately assuming something’s wrong, try getting curious about what you’re actually feeling and why, without making every emotion mean something catastrophic about whether you’ve chosen the right person.”